For most people, Sunday will be Mother’s Day. For me, it’s going to be just another day. There’ll be no breakfast buffet, no presents to give, no social media posts to share.
My grandmother died years ago, and my wife, the mother of my two stepdaughters, died in 2016. My mother died on October 15, 2020, after contracting the COVID-19 virus.
The highlight of my day was my weekly grocery run, which, perhaps ironically, reminded me of my mother.
Looking back, I remember going with my mother to the grocery store.
As we walked the aisles, she’d stop and talk with nearly everyone she saw, from employees to customers. This process, understandably, took quite some time, and for 5-year-old me, was nearly unbearable.
“Coooome ooon, Mom! Let’s go!”
I would grab her hand and pull and pull, trying to get her to leave. Predictably, that didn’t go in my favor.
Mom was going to do what she was going to do, and I better “Hush up!” and “Behave!”
She never let go of my hand.
Three years ago, I found myself pulling on her hand once more.
This time, I was trying to get her to stay.
The coronavirus took her quickly, striking just days after her 73rd birthday on Sept. 1, 2020. She went to the hospital on Sept. 5 complaining of a headache and shortness of breath, tested positive for the virus and, after being initially sent home with orders to return if her symptoms worsened, was admitted on Sept. 9. By Sept. 12, she was in need of a ventilator. Her last words to me, via phone, were, “We’ll be OK.”
She spent two weeks in the COVID ICU before being transferred to the medical ICU, where I was finally able to see her, talk to her and hold her hand. The doctors did their best to get her to wake up and come off the ventilator, but multiple organ failures and an inability to breathe on her own complicated matters.
By the end, there was nothing else left to try. The doctors laid out the remaining options for me — none of which lined up with my mother’s wishes — and asked me to make a decision about the way forward.
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